“The seeds of intimacy are time and repetition. We choose each other again and again, and so create a community of two.”
— Esther Perel
Couples Therapy
The couples who come to me for therapy are partners who have been married for years and need some help finding the spark again. They are just starting their relationship and need some support leaving their old baggage out of their new love. They are couples looking for ways to improve their intimacy and work through differences in sexual desire. They are trying to find common ground when it comes to parenting styles. They are regular people looking for concrete tools to help them communicate better.
The first couple of sessions with my couples is dedicated to collecting a ton of data. I want to have as much information as I can get about them without actually seeing them in the real world. I will often ask one partner for information about the other, which helps me gauge how well they know each other. I assess how close they are as friends and give them concrete tools to use to improve their relationship from the ground up. I ask how intimacy shows up in their relationship. I work with the couple to identify areas of opportunity and set goals for our work together.
My couples will tell you that I am compassionate and empathetic, while also being straightforward and no-nonsense. I am my couples’ biggest cheerleader, and genuinely want them to succeed. Research shows that most couples wait an average of 6 years before reaching out for help with their relationship. Don’t be one of those couples. If you aren’t loving your love life, do something about it! I offer a complimentary 15 minute consultation to see if we’re a good fit before starting therapy.
